IMPROVING YOUR PERSONALITY (Folaranmi Richard)

Personality can simply be described as the total qualities of a person. This includes the feeling, behavioral and thinking pattern. People with good personality are generally likeable, while those with bad personality would notice that people don't readily associate with them. Psychologists maintain that

the need to feel loved and appreciated are the primary emotional needs of human. Hence everyone wants to possess what it takes to make people gravitate towards them. Thus, having a good personality may help satisfy this need perhaps than having good looks.

Improve your communication skills - Communication is often regarded as the lifeline of any relationship. While assessing a person's personality, communication usually is the greatest criterion. Practice listening more. Give people the opportunity of being heard. People definitely enjoy it when people listen to them with interest. Similarly, learn to be a good conversationalist. People love people with opinion.

Be Open-minded: A wise man once said "The goal of education is not to fill the mind of a child, rather it is to open the mind." Being open-minded means giving people the opportunity to express their true self without being judgmental or biased. Open-mindedness is a great feature of intelligent people. It allows you to see life through others' glass and puts you in the good book of others.

Respect yourself as well as others: There's a saying that "First impression last for a very long time." It is quite true. Smooth communication skills may attract people to you but how you treat them will tell if you will maintain the relationship or not. When people perceive you as someone disrespectful, they will most likely avoid you. The degree to which you respect yourself is the degree to which others respect you. Brian Tracy said "Live your life in every way to earn and keep the respect of those you respect."

Develop a Good Sense of Humor: This doesn't mean you have to be a comedian, rather you should be able to make people smile and giggle on certain occasions. Everyone loves to be with someone who will make them laugh and smile. Develop the ability to laugh at yourself with friends. In a saturnine situation, this ability comes in handy.

Be Original: When dealing with people, be your real self. Don't try to talk or act like someone you feel has a better personality. Trying to be someone else has a way of oozing out your 'fakeness'. You are at your best when you are original. Be confident while being yourself. Finally, love God, love yourself and love others.

                                 WRITTEN BY FOLARANMI RICHARD
                                (To see other works of this writer click on his name above)